Quotes, Short Stories, Links, Books

“This page is under construction”

— Quote Source

“You have little chance of getting at the truth if you know in advance what the truth ought to be”

“A sailor who would discover new worlds must be willing to lose sight of the shore”

“If you desire to reach what you do not know, you must go where you know nothing”

“You can talk to a part or as a part, but do not talk about a part; that is gossip and no one likes being gossiped about”

“We do better if we treat part as whole people, unique individuals”

— above quotes from Robert Falconer

“Healing can be a disorienting experience when the traumatic patterns we hold inside are all we have ever known.”

-Unknown

“Pay attention to your patterns. The way you learned to survive may not be the way you want to continue life. Heal and Shift”

-Morgan Freeman

“An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.”It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf will win?”

You might heard the story ends like this: The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

In the Cherokee world, however, the story ends this way:

The old Cherokee simply replied, “If you feed them right, they both win.” and the story goes on: 

“You see, if I only choose to feed the white wolf, the black one will be hiding around every corner waiting for me to become distracted or weak and jump to get the attention he craves. He will always be angry and always fighting the white wolf. But if I acknowledge him, he is happy and the white wolf is happy and we all win. For the black wolf has many qualities – tenacity, courage, fearlessness, strong-willed and great strategic thinking – that I have need of at times and that the white wolf lacks. But the white wolf has compassion, caring, strength and the ability to recognize what is in the best interest of all.

"You see, son, the white wolf needs the black wolf at his side. To feed only one would starve the other and they will become uncontrollable. To feed and care for both means they will serve you well and do nothing that is not a part of something greater, something good, something of life. Feed them both and there will be no more internal struggle for your attention. And when there is no battle inside, you can listen to the voices of deeper knowing that will guide you in choosing what is right in every circumstance. Peace, my son, is the Cherokee mission in life. A man or a woman who has peace inside has everything. A man or a woman who is pulled apart by the war inside him or her has nothing.

"How you choose to interact with the opposing forces within you will determine your life. Starve one or the other or guide them both.”

–Cherokee Story

IFS is a relational repair model from the inside out. The goal is to achieve balance and harmony in the system. To really build a relationship with ourselves. Elayna Fernández talks about “Our Relationship with Pain”.

click here